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Meet StarGolden

Welcome to Femme de Chocolat, where we discuss all things female, hair, poetry, music, and chocolate (of course)!  I am StarGolden, writer & creator of "femme de chocolat" and your all-around black girl from the block.  Hope you enjoy what you read... hope your first time isn't your last =).

To-Do List 2011

This is a list of things I want to accomplish before the end of 2011!


Bake my mom's chocolate cake

Try Persian food

Learn to swim

Learn to skate

Get my driving permit

Go to driving school

Earn my driving license

Learn to make cupcakes by scratch

Create my own cupcake recipe

Ride a bike 3 miles from Santa Monica to Venice

Lose 20 lbs

Start a Teaching Preparation Program in CA

Make Thanksgiving dinner by myself

Keep one phone for one year

Knit a blanket

Go to a concert

Start a video blog

Do 300 community service hours

Write a play

Start writing a novel

Do Community Theatre

Send flowers to someone I love

Reach 50-100 followers

Become a pescatarian

Go hiking

See an independent film

Complete a self-help book

Go to San Francisco

Read the entire bible

Get Insurance

Hot Chocolate with StarGolden

Join StarGolden the last day of every month for Hot Chocolate, a new video blog discussing hot topics including, but not limited to, the community, hair, music, politics, literature, and more.



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Chocolate Recipe of the Month

Chocolate Chip Cookies


  • 2/3 cup butter flavored shortening
  • 1 1/2 cups packed brown sugar
  • 3/4 cup white sugar
  • 3 eggs
  • 2 teaspoons vanilla extract
  • 2 cups all-purpose flour
  • 1 cup rolled oats
  • 2 teaspoons baking powder
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 1 cup semisweet chocolate chips
  • 1/2 cup butterscotch chips
  • 1 cup chopped walnuts



  1. Cream together shortening and sugars, blend in eggs and vanilla. Mix in flour, oats, baking powder, and salt. Stir in chips and nuts.
  2. Spread into a 9 x 13 pan. Bake at 350 degrees F (175 degrees C) for 25-30 minutes.


I always do this....

By LaTasha Golden · December 7, 2011

Everytime I start to write on a consistent basis.... something throws it all off track.

Oh well.  Anyway....

I'm back (for now).  Here a BRIEF update on all the things I've been up to:

1. I got a new, AWESOME job (that's all I have to say about it for now.  Just know that it's AWESOME... and the reason I don't post as often).

2. I was able to cross off a lot of items on my TO-DO LIST  FOR 2011 in the last couple months (Everyday I'm hustlin').

3. I've made new friends, am more social, can't for another productive year!


That's all folks.


What it means to be a Quarter of a Century...

By LaTasha Golden · August 8, 2011


This past week was "birthday" week!  I celebrated turning a quarter of a century, in style, over a week's time with my family, friends, and students.  It was awesome.  I had a very good time with my husband and my co-workers over the weekend and my students and co-workers continued to shower me with small gifts of appreciation throughout the week; moreover, I was able to release a lot of stress in preparation for my new career venture (more information on that later:-)).  All in all, the past week has been jam packed with great laughs, quality times, weight loss sabotage, birthday re-gifts, and red velvet cake.

Tuesday through Friday:

I had to work on my birthday (cause I'm grown) and it wasn't that bad.  On the day of my birthday, my step girls bought me a slice of vanilla cake :-).  Wednesday, my co-workers bought me red velvet cupcakes (delicious) and a card.  Thursday, we had pizza from Papa Johns.  Talk about weight loss sabotage!  Every time I tried to "be good" to save up for the weekend, I kept getting another sweet edible gift.... at least I got something, right?  My mother sent me beautiful multi-colored roses and my aunt sent me a necklace from Tiffany's (which clearly looked as if she received as a gift and didn't want it).  But it's okay 'cause now, I have a necklace from Tiffany's!


My husband treated me with dinner at Grand Lux Cafe and we went to see Rise of the Planet of the Apes.  First and foremost, I've only been to Grand Lux once before with my good friend and her husband when she visited LA a few months back- and then I only ordered a margherita pizza and the Creme Brulee Duo (dark chocolate and vanilla)-- which was delicious.  This time however, I believe I had the best meal of my life (no joke).  I ordered the Jamaican Pork Tenderloin.  Now, I do not eat pork often (Imma chicken and seafood lady).  But this meal was by far the greatest merge of Island/Jamaican flavors I had ever tasted.  The entree came with Spicy Jerk-seasoned pork tenderloins, black beans, brown rice (your choice of white or brown rice), and mashed sweet potatoes.  The suprising part of the meal was the flavor of the black beans; these were no regular cuban/latin black beans.  They had a Jamaican kick to them and tasted as if they were flavored with Jerk sauce.  The brown rice was delicious! It didn't taste hard and grainy like most brown rice and it paired well with the beans.  And the mashed sweet potatoes were heaven, of course.  My only critique would be with the way it was served; it came with two large pieces of spicy fried wontons that looked like wings; and the rice and beans were on opposites sides of the plates (which baffled me because it's "rice and beans" not "rice" and "beans").  Other than that, it was heaven in my mouth... can't wait to taste it again.

To continue the evening we saw Rise of the Planet of the Apes: IT IS THE BEST MOVIE OF THE SUMMER!  No lie.  I think it rivals Fast Five, which was also a very great movie this summer.  In my book, Rise of the Planet of the Apes ties with Fast Five for the number one spot.  I won't spoil it for you because the movie premiered Friday but if you haven't already made plans to see it.... SEE IT.



I was apprehensive about going out with my good LA friend Sunday night.  Nothing about her.  It's just that I had had so much fun Saturday that I didn't want to do anything else for the weekend but recuperate.  But, because I don't have to work until later this week, I can recoup later ;-).  Anyway, we went to the Cheesecake Factory for dinner.  I love Cheesecake Factory for more than just the cheesecake; I think they have delicious appetizers and great entrees.  But this visit was just weird from the beginning.  Imagine going to a birthday dinner and not knowing if the person who is taking you out is going to pay for your meal and you know that if they didn't, you wouldn't want to spend too much money anyway.... Well that's how I felt at dinner.  Pair that with thinking about the long term- the rest of the night- and the anticipation of more food and alcohol consumption, and therefore, more money exiting my wallet.  So, instead of ordering the Jamaican Shrimp (which is Cheesecake version of the same Grand Lux entree, only with seafood; I wanted to compare the two), I ordered a small margherita pizzette and a house salad.  My Weight Watchers buddies would have been proud but my stomach wasn't (I'll explain later).  So, after having a margarita drink, pizzette, salad, and half of a red velvet cheesecake, I was cool. 

Then the horror started.  We were heading to Laugh Factory for Chocolate Sundays; we didn't know who was performing but we were excited about getting some good laughs and good drinks.  By the time we arrived to Chocolate Sundays- I was pretty intoxicated with only a salad, bread and cheese in my system.  Not drunk, just pleasant, as some would say.  We stood outside for an hour (my feet were killing me) and finally got in around 10:50pm (the show was supposed to start at 10pm).  I am going to spare all of the other not-so-attractive details of the evening and skip to the part were I found out that Kevin Hart, Deray Davis, Scruncho, and others were performing.  I HEART KEVIN HART!! And he was sooooo funny.  Let's just say I laughed non stop all night.  Also, Ludacris and Tony Rock were in the house! By the end of the night, I was so glad that I went out.  I haven't been out with friends in a long time and I can't wait to do it again!


All in all, my weekend was the highlight of my life since turning 25 and I'm very excited for more.  I can truly say that I've got it together (or whatever together means for now).  I'm ready for success and whatever life has in store :-).


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Happy Birthday To Me!

By LaTasha Golden · August 2, 2011

... yep.... it's my birthday!

Weight Loss... Bah Humbug....

By LaTasha Golden · July 28, 2011


I've decided to really take this weight loss thing seriously.  It's not that I'm fat (because I'm not).  I'm just happy with my body right now.  So, I joined Weight Watchers two days ago and I'm really trying to get back to a healthy lifestyles.  It just sucks because my life is changing so rapidly.  Some of those changes I don't want to talk about online (not yet) but, all in all, I gotta roll with the punches.


Keep ya posted.

Weight Loss... Bah Humbug....

By LaTasha Golden · July 28, 2011


I've decided to really take this weight loss thing seriously.  It's not that I'm fat (because I'm not).  I'm just happy with my body right now.  So, I joined Weight Watchers two days ago and I'm really trying to get back to a healthy lifestyles.  It just sucks because my life is changing so rapidly.  Some of those changes I don't want to talk about online (not yet) but, all in all, I gotta roll with the punches.


Keep ya posted.

The pursuit...

By LaTasha Golden · July 19, 2011

…when you sense a faint potentiality for happiness after such dark times you must grab onto the ankles of that happiness and not let go until it drags you face-first out of the dirt – this is not selfishness, but obligation. You were given life, it is your duty (and also your entitlement as a human being) to find something beautiful within life, no matter how slight.

<p>Eat, Pray, Love

Hot Chocolate with StarGolden

By LaTasha Golden · July 8, 2011


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Necessary Hair Update and Shoutout!

By LaTasha Golden · July 1, 2011


I've mentioned before, briefly, that I have been learning how to do my weaves by watching youtube videos.  I wasn't lying.  I think people often forget or they just do not realize the benefits of youtube and the tutorials average people post for others enjoyment and benefit.  Well, I frequently watch a particular youtube channel by tbdconfident (Click here to visit) and believe me when I say that her videos are GREAT.  She gives very detailed, very personable tutorials on quick weaves and hair in general.  Believe it or not, it was one of her video posts that encouraged me to relax my hair (and I do not regret it).  Since discovering her channel, I have SUCCESSFULLY completed four quick weave hairstyles!-- three quick weaves on a cap and one integrated quick weave.  The pictures I've posted of my hair in the last few months have been my attempt at her work.  I'm no where near as great as she is, but her videos do help me achieve a greatness of my own.

Here's some photos of my most recent and most successful quick weave inspired by tbdconfident:


(Click here if you wanna read some prior posts).

Filed in: hair

Taking a break....

By LaTasha Golden · June 30, 2011


I've finished the 30 day challenge.... and I'll be taking a month off from blogging on Femme de Chocolate... at least not on a daily basis.. more of a bi-weekly basis.

But, PLEASE CHECK OUT blackerberries.onsugar.com, my other blog where I'll be starting another 30 day challenge. :-)

Keep reading,


Day Thirty: Rick James....

By LaTasha Golden · June 30, 2011

Day Thirty: Who Are You?



Day Twenty-Nine: It's been a month....

By LaTasha Golden · June 30, 2011

Day Twenty-Nine: In this past month, what have you learned?

I've learned that life is only as scary as you imagine it.

I'm not afraid.

For now.

Day Twenty-Eight: Just Me...

By LaTasha Golden · June 30, 2011

Day Twenty-Eight: A picture of you last year and now, how have you changed since then?

Last Year

This Year

Day Twenty-Seven: Why?

By LaTasha Golden · June 27, 2011

Day Twenty-Seven: Why are you doing this 30 day challenge?


Because I was bored.


The end.

Day Twenty-Six: My homies...

By LaTasha Golden · June 26, 2011

Day Twenty-Six:  What you think about your friends

Josh: My husband, my collaborator, my movie partner, my financial advisor, my ALL NIGHT LONG (heheheheeehehehe)

Tasia: My bestie, my twin, my long distance homie, my sistar

Kehara: My cheerleader, my shopping buddy, my married friend

Nicole: My line sister, my example of a good mother, my shoulder to lean on

Carissa: My adopted lil sis, my stay on the phone for hours buddy, my once in a blue moon friend

Obi: My new buddy, my co-worker, my margarita mondays buddy

Jazmine: My leadership partner, my shit talking homie, my Starbucks and mexican food friend



That's all folks.

Filed in: Diary

Day Twenty-Five:

By LaTasha Golden · June 26, 2011

Day Twenty-Five:  What I would find in your bag

  • Keys
  • Mace
  • Wallet
  • Lip Gloss
  • Pens
  • Movie Tickets
  • Flash Drives
  • Comb
  • Bottled Water
  • Coach Wristlet
  • Old receipts
  • Phone
  • Hair Tie
  • Tampons
  • Lock and Key
  • iPod


Filed in: Diary

Day Twenty-Four: Dear Mom

By LaTasha Golden · June 26, 2011

Day Twenty-Four: A letter to your parents


Dear Mom,



Sorry for cursing.


Love ya,

Your Daughter

Filed in: Diary

Day Twenty-Three: What do you think?

By LaTasha Golden · June 26, 2011

Day Twenty-Three:  Something you crave for a lot

What do you think?




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Day Twenty-Two: Imma thug...

By LaTasha Golden · June 26, 2011

Day Twenty-Two:  What makes you different from everyone else?

One of my favorite students, Chrissy, has this saying... Whenever she wants to aviod answering a question of why, she answers, "cause imma thug." :-/

This used to bother me until I began to understand the meaning behind the words.  We (Chrissy and I) come from similar backgrounds-- the major difference is that her background is more rough, extreme, and proverty-stricken than mine.  But despite these hardships, she still comes to school everyday, tries her best to make good grades, and participates in a plethora of afterschool activities, one being my step team (where she serves as captain).

I have a similar story: Born in the ghetto, raised in the hood, but still went to school, made great grades, went to college, went to graduate school, and I'm still going (yay me).  So what makes me different?  Imma thug.  Yeah that's right.  I have not (nor has Chrissy) lost my thug mentality, streetsmarts, or rough edges.  It's what makes me human and unique.  All in all, being a "thug" is a state of mind where there's nothing that can surprise you, seem foreign to you, throw you off your game because you've seen it all before.  It's the perfect culmination of experience, knowledge, and learning...

And in the end, it is what makes separates me from the droids.



Filed in: Diary

Day Twenty-One: :-)

By LaTasha Golden · June 21, 2011

Day Twenty-One: A picture of something that makes you happy.

I'm no wino.  I just love this wine.

Filed in: Diary

Day Twenty: It's my anniversary!

By LaTasha Golden · June 20, 2011

Day Twenty: Someone you see yourself marrying/being with in the future.

My MAN! My husband :-)

Filed in: Diary

Promotional Video for my Step Team

By LaTasha Golden · June 19, 2011

This is a promotional video I made for my step team at University High School.

Day Nineteen: Nicknames

By LaTasha Golden · June 19, 2011

Day Nineteen: Nicknames you have; Why do you have them?


I don't really have any relevant, current nicknames.  I was born LaTasha but everyone calls me Tasha (out of laziness... and I prefer it).  I created StarGolden cause I wanted to (read more about it here).  One interesting fact is that I was given the nickname nubian queen by my classmates in high school-- all because I was a pro-black, black history knowing girl (and I was pretty too).

Other than that... just call me ... Me.

Filed in: Diary

Day Eighteen: The future...

By LaTasha Golden · June 19, 2011

Day Eighteen: Plans/dreams/goals you have.


Plans: To stay Black.

Dreams: To stay alive.

Goals: To maintain sanity.



Filed in: Diary

Day Seventeen: To be or not to be...

By LaTasha Golden · June 17, 2011

Day Seventeen: Someone you would want to switch lives with for one day and why.


To be or not to be... my hubby.  I have a very ambitious, successful, hardworking husband that is currently in dental school at the University of Southern California.  He is always so stressed and tired... and though I know what he is going through, I would love to trade places with him so that I could fully understand what it is like so that I could better help him at home.  I just wanna hug him and kiss him sometimes.  But maybe that's not what he needs... if I knew what he went through, I'd know what he needs :-)


Dear Black Angel: Morning Dilemmas ...

By LaTasha Golden · June 17, 2011


Every morning I have the same dilemma.  I wake up at the butt crack of dawn to run wistfully around the house and do things for my husband as a good wife should, and I end up asking the same question after he walks out of the door... what now?  My daily plans don't start at 7am or 6am... they start at 8:30am or 9am.  So what I find myself doing every morning is standing in the middle of the living room, staring blankly into space, wondering what the hell am I going to do next.  Though (today particularly) I have a slew of things I need to do with little time to complete them all... I really do not feel like doing anything RIGHT THIS MOMENT.  I wanna watch television, sip tea, listen to Marsha Ambrosius, lay in my bed, go to sleep, or stare at the ceiling.  I don't want to do work, or check email, or make plans, or leave the house.

I just wanna chill.

What is the point of this post? There is none... but to say that.... the morning sucks.  And maybe I should take that time and chill out.

So I'm chillin'.

Chocolate Music

Chocolate of the Month


This is an ode to my hubby :-).  Almond Joy candies are the perfect little snack when you need a nice, light treat to fulfill your sweet tooth.  I, personally, am a lover of chocolate, almonds, and coconut; so Almond Joys and the perfect treat for me.  If you're not a "nut" fan... try Mounds instead.



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What StarGolden is Reading

Holding Out by Anne O. Faulk 

Holding out is so fresh, so funny, and so controversial that it's not only sure to cause a major stir but to prompt readers to wonder: Anne Faulk, where have you been all our lives?   The protagonist is Lauren Fontaine, a thirty six year old financial wizard who is outraged when the wife of the chief justice of the Supreme Court commits suicide afters years of spousal abuse, and the Congress refuses to impeach the offender.  Lauren suggests that every woman in America refuse to have sex until the judge is removed from the court and she becomes the center of controversial, political uproar.  Combining a sexy, modern heroine with an original, imaginative, and poignant story, Holding Out is a delicious page-turner that marks the debut of a sophisticated and major new talent.

Review coming soon.